Dearest Sons

For today's tip, we focus on the values of Sibling Harmony. Hopefully you can apply this to yourselves as brothers and your children who are siblings.

 

He ain’t heavy, He’s my brother.

This is a popular music ballad written by Bobby Scott and Bob Russell. It became a hit for the Hollies in 1969.

Today, we are not going to discuss with you on the merits of hippy pop culture of the 60s. Although we love the 60s slogan “Make love, not War “

There are many articles on Sibling Rivalries. We are not going to dwell on the negative side of sibling rivalries but rather on the positive side of it and how you as brothers can benefit from it. (Uh-Oh Daddy is going to preach again!)

We hope to inculcate the concept of Love your Brother using lyrics from the above song.

The road is long

With many a winding turn

That leads us to who knows where

Who knows where

The journey in life is long my sons. You may bicker and quarrel about little things such as toys and who gets to play with the Ipad, but these are small in context to what you would face in life.

By the time you are able to understand this, you would probably realize that the method, of beating/ bullying your brother in order to get what you want, would not apply to get what you need in life. So in this moment of the unknown, it is a safe option to stay with what you know. He is your brother and blood runs thicker than water, come what may.

But I’m Strong

Strong enough to carry him

He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother

So on we go

Yes, boys, you are strong in your own ways. You know you are Super Boys with your boundless energy and explosive strength.  We hope you can channel those energies to help each other. Your brother is there to be your support. He may not be your mirror self and at times you wonder if you are of the same parentage (which you are my boys, just different portions of Mummy and Daddy in each)Stand as one to face life challenges.  You are brothers, and the might of two is stronger than one.

His Welfare is of my concern

No burden is he to bear

We’ll get there

For I know

He would not encumber me

He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother

Remember that as our sons; you are loved my Mum and Dad in equal sums. You are our pride and joy. We have never felt any of you as a burden. Do unto your brother what your parents had done to you. Love him dear for who he is as we have loved you both. Your brother is not here as your obstacle. He is here as your pillar and your extra pair of hands. You support each other in life, you will succeed together.

If I’m laden at all

I’m laden with sadness

That everyone’s hear

Isn’t filled with the gladness

Of love for one another

Share your joys and your tribulations. Never dwell on your own sorrows. You can share laughter, you can share tears. As brothers, you compete against each other, to see who’s best at the task at hand. Use that combative spirit in you and channel it to your brother’s darkest hour. Complete to see who can give more love to the other when in need. Complete to see who can make the other smile or bring back the laughter in times of sorrow. You are your brother’s competitor. Now we set you both a target. Challenge each other on who is the best…. Brother.

It’s a long, long road

From which there is no return

While we’re on the way to there

Why not share

Life has only 1 final destination. Nevertheless, it’s a long road out to where we are heading. Learn to share what you have with each other, starting from the toys when you are kids, to your life joys and experiences. If one has fallen, do remember to be there for him. Lift him up, aid him as you could, support as you should. The ending point is but a destination, the beautiful journey shared is what makes this one trip worthwhile.

And the load

Doesn’t weigh me down at all

He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother

He’s my brother

He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother

He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother

So let’s start practice Sibling Harmony and not Sibling Rivalry. We know it’s hard when you are young, but firm foundation starts from the beginning and not the end.