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Raising boys : A Daddy's perspective

Let you in on a secret.

I always loved having a girl as part of the family. The notion of having M's Angel has been on my wishlist since I married. I had always dreamed of walking my 'daughter' down the aisle.

Alas, it was not meant to be ...all thanks to all the coffee I religiously took - read caffeine and sex of the baby. Instead of M's Angel, I ended up with 2 Mini-me. IIn hindsight, it was a great trade as I can discard the search for a replica shotgun I might need whenever my 'daughter's' date arrives at the door.

So what is it like to raise 2 sons?

Expect competition
The boys are very competitive among themselves. They want to outperform each other on numerous occasions. The level of testosterone in the family is up several notches. It is hard to dissuade them from this competition.  Then, as usual, with intense competition comes to the fights. At their tender age, their desire to win all the time is hard to suppress. The main challenge will be to channel their competitiveness in the right direction.

Double trouble
When the two boys are fighting, it means more headaches for the parents. When they decide to be in cahoots, expect trouble to double. Tag teaming tends to bring out little schemes that are least expected.

Like they say, double the trouble, double the fun... no?

Strong pair of hands in the household
As the boys grow older and less reliant on Daddy to carry them, the tables have turned. Now they come in handy when grocery shopping, especially when there are more than a few bags to carry. Also, with each of them pulling their weight, shopping and travel seem much lighter.

No Daddy's Angels, but Mommy's boys
Ok, I admit. Boys are closer to mom than to dad. It's not a theory but a fact since I have experienced that with them. As a dad, you can play with them, wrestle them, educate them, and joke with them. However, it's Mommy that matters when it comes to matters of the heart. No prizes for guessing who is the favourite in the household when you have a room of many boys and one girl.
Rough play ahead
Forget about masak masak or afternoon tea. Nerf gun battles, Xbox games, and Jedi training occasionally occur in the household. A bruise or two does not stop the boys from having their adrenaline high.

Let's share our toys.
One good thing ( there are many good things, but this is worth highlighting) is that having boys in the house is the excuse to buy toys, particularly toys that Daddy likes. It is an excellent excuse for a Dad to catch up with childhood with LEGO, transformers and star wars toys. Having boys give me the license to buy toys I like to share with the boys... just do not tell mom.

It's a boy's world
The movies played in the household include Marvel Avengers, The Flash, Ip Man, etc. It's either that or football on Saturday night. There is no 'ladies' night' in the week in the household. Sorry, Mom.

Passing down an 'heirloom.'
Having boys means I can pass down my 'treasures' to them. They have their place on the Will, from the watches I own and the camera gear to the toy collection (LEGO!). Other hand-me-downs include clothes, bags and accessories, provided they are still 'fashionable' when the kids grow up. Before I forget, I would use the car less often once they turn 18.

One cannot deny that it is a bouncy house when most households are males. It is rare to have a quiet day at home. Usually, shouts of joy screams of delight and cries from fighting to fill the air at irregular intervals. It may be painful on the eardrums on certain days, but if truth be told. I would not want it any other way.

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